Ray & Ary Spencer Ray & Ary Spencer have been married for eight years. They originally met on CatholicMatch and entered a long-distance dating relationship, as Ray lived in Minnesota and Ary lived in Mexico. Their marriage testifies to the fact that a joy-filled God-centered relationship can flourish between two people from different countries, with different languages and cultural backgrounds. Prayer, the Catholic faith, the Theology of the Body, and of course, Christ Himself, all continue to be a foundational part of their marriage.